Tuesday, March 27, 2012

What Everyone Can Do

Last year this month I was on a plane coming home from Shanghai, China after meeting many waiting children.  These children are finally being united with their new families.  I read all the adoption blogs for these children and watch their journeys.  http://www.adoptionsbygladney.com/adoption/international/china-adoption-blogs.  These children are so brave meeting new parents and going to another country.  I watch them walk in and meet their adoptive parents in china where I have met them.  It's a funny experience to see them at the orphanage, walking around Shanghai or in the market I have been to.  The parents are so wonderful, opening their hearts to children who are older or have some special need. I feel the magic, emotion and excitement of this new beginning all through their written word.

I talk to many prospective adoptive parents once I am home. I consult with doctors and other therapists on many of the children we see on our trips.  When people ask me" what can I do to help?" I say,  Get the word out.  There are many children in orphanages or foster care in China with very mild or already resolved special needs.  I think if everyone knew how great these children are, it would make a difference.  So the number one thing you can all do is raise awareness.   

cant medical needs.  I spend as much time as I can, holding, loving and working with these children as well.  I work in the orphanage rooms and also in the rehabilitation areas to help the caregivers and therapists develop activities for these children.  They are not forgotten.  I carry each and every child in my heart.  This is something everyone can do.

There are also many children in the orphanages who have significant medical needs.  I spend as much time as I can, holding, loving and working with these children as well.  I work in the orphanage rooms and also in the rehabilitation areas to help the caregivers and therapists develop activities for these children.  They are not forgotten.  I carry each and every child in my heart.  This is something everyone can do.

Pat Marcus,
Physical Therapist




Sunday, March 11, 2012

Pat Reflects



I have had time to reflect on my trp to Tiawan and China this November and would like to share what the trip ment to me with all of you.  I have been to China 5 times  and now for the first time to Taiwan.  Every trip I always feel was better than the last.  This trip was the most amazing trip because of the people.  In the beginning, when you expierence a different culture, you have to reflect on what everything means but by now this culture shock has faded and I was so much more able to focus on the people and their stories.   
That is the thing that made this trip,  the people.   Our facilitator in Tiawan, Mr Yeh.  a retired axillary police officer.  He is a grandfather and took such great care of us.  He took us everywhere in his WiFi equipped cab.  He took me several places on the way from the train to the airport and had me pose for pictures wherever he took me.   The boys i met in the Chingyi  orphanage were amazing.  One boy had been there about 5 years.  The orphanage staff told me this boy liked to have pillow fights but did not like doing his chores.  I had all i could do to keep a straight face.  
In Shanghai,  I delivered a shared care packages for some of the children.  There was a little girl who was barely walking in march, walking by November and was running when that family brought her home in January.  I had one child who just got a care package and then shared a balloon with another child.  At the foster care station, I asked a matched child if she had anything to say to her soon to be adoptive parents.   She said  "  Mother, father, I love you".  There was not a dry eye in the room.  I was asked by another child , "is there a family for me?"  I am touched again and again by the children and the people.

Three of the children from my November trip are still waiting for their forever families.  It saddens me greatly that it's the boys always left waiting. I find I'm left advocating for many more boys than girls.  You can read about all these waiting children on the Gladney Asia waiting children page.

Peace and prayers for waiting children everywhere.

Pat