The Magic of Adoption


Less than 24 hours to go before I leave for China.  I was shocked today when we lost power for the first time since the storm.  Of course it was right after I put all my extra clothes into wash.  I had several minutes of anxiety and then remembered how many people have been without power since Saturday.  Needless to say the power is now back on and clothes are drying.

Today I am reflecting on something Janet Fink (Superkids founder) once said to me.  She said she did not want to miss out on the magic of adopting.  I think there is an amazing magic of a child that is grown in your heart.  Of that child finding his or her way to you, the parent.  Also, the magic of this new person you get to meet who will be part of the center of your family.  I think of the parents and the children as two glimmering lights on opposites of the world, waiting to unite.  I am uniquely lucky to be part of the process that brings these lights together.  I have been lucky to meet some of the parents who are adopting children from the partnership program.  I feel very lucky to be assisting in this process.  How happy and lucky can I be to meet all these wonderful children and so many great families! I can just feel the magic.

Pat
PT

Our Mission

I am thinking a lot about what my mission is in China and Taiwan this trip.  Every time I travel it is with a great deal of hope and thoughtfulness about the future.  I meet many children when I am in China.  I meet a large number of children with minor disabilities.  Many of their issues are not really considered disabilities here in the USA.  They don't effect how the kids will live nor will they make life harder in the long term.  These are the children who are part of the partnership program with the Shanghai Children's Home. Our goal with the partnership children is to help them find their forever families.  We speak to prospective parents and try to give them an idea of what the children are like.

There are many other children that I get to meet and work with who have serious  medical issues.  These children will probably not find forever families.  My goal with these children is to make them feel special and loved - to assist in their rehabilitation and with any special needs they have.  I think about these children when I get in bed at night.

Today, let's think about all the children in orphanages, not just in China, but around the world.  Let's send all the positive energy we can to all these children.  I hope they can know that in some way, there are people who love them.

Peace,
Pat
PT 

More than 1,000 Steps



This journey will be more than 1000 steps.  Much more.  I am leaving with Gongzhan Wu (Gladney VP and director of the Asia Program) on Wednesday, Nov. 2nd and the latest itinerary reads like this.

NY to Tokyo               6737 miles
Tokyo to Taipei           1330 miles
Taipei to Shanghai      427 miles
Shanghai to Harbin     1041 miles
Harbin to Jiamushi      3.5 hours by car (mileage? maybe 150 miles)  

That would make 9685 miles one way.
Returning I go from:
                            Jiamushi to Harbin              150 miles(roughly)
                            Harbin to Beijing                  659 miles               
                            Beijing to Tokyo                   1307 miles
                            Tokyo to Home                    6737 miles  
That makes 8853 miles on the return trip.
Total 18,538 miles in all.  I cannot believe it.  The distance around the earth at the equator is 24,901 miles so I will not equal that.  If I started at JFK and went 18,538 miles to the west I would fly more than half way around the world and end up somewhere in Italy.  Please pass the spaghetti.  But then again didn't spaghetti come from China?     


 Although this will be an exciting but arduous journey it is for an important purpose.  To help children find their forever families, and for those children who will never find forever families to provide whatever comfort, caring and joy we can offer to them and to their caregivers.  I am the lucky one.  I will be meeting so many amazing children in all these cities.  I cannot wait for this journey to begin.  Wish I could go tonight.  The only problem is my suitcase is not packed.  Better wait till Wednesday. 
Peace,
Pat Marcus
PT   

Preparation Begins


Even the longest journey begins with but one step.  I am about to begin a journey of many steps.  It will be from NYC to Tokyo to TaiPei, TaiPei to Shanghai China and Shanghai to Jiamusi.  I will be traveling with Gongzhan Wu who is in charge of the Asia program at Gladney.  Our purpose is to bring information about our waiting children program to Taiwan.  We will then be in Shanghai to meet more Gladney designated children from the Shanghai Childrens Home, spend time with the rehabilitation staff and the children in the orphanage.    We will then fly to Northern China to speak with caregivers and staff in an orphanage there.  All in ten days.

That will be many steps.  Many new faces, new opportunities to get to know the wonderful children and make a difference.  As a volunteer for Superkids my goal is to make a difference in the lives of children who are waiting for forever families and those who will never find their own special family.  I feel so lucky to be part of this program.

Every day from now to Nov 2,  I will be packing, preparing and eagerly anticipating this trip.  Hope I have enough room in my suitcase for all I want to bring.  Will keep you all updated.

Pat,
PT

Priceless

Dear internet friends and followers,
I am now back home in the lovely USA. Truth be told I have been here over a week. I apologize greatly for the abruptness of this post- but the return was a well maneuvered, full Hood family surprise for my mom’s birthday.  Obviously, there could be no alluding to this date prior to my departure. The result of all this trickery was absolutely priceless. I have never seen that level of shock in my mom’s eyes or heard her shriek like that in my glorious 29 years of life.
The following will thus be one last bloggy attempt to give a semblance of verbal expression to an experience that is utterly impossible to sum up in words alone.  I will use mastercard to help me.  I hope it’s not copy written:

2 Cameras
52 braces (ankle foot orthotics)
Wearing the same backpack full of cloths for 8 months
1 debit card
14 airplane tickets
1 cell phone
6 orphanages
Innumerable bus rides
4 jars of “imported” peanut butter
9342 pictures
1 12X12 box of souvenirs
3 new Colombia mothers
1 pediatric walker
13 hours of video
47 blog posts
5 visitors/best friends coming to see me
0 Malaria pills (despite the fact I carried a huge vat of them throughout my entire trip… waiting for the moment they became necessary)
3 horseback rides
1 salsa lesson
2 lice infestations
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Closing my eyes and smiling all the way down to my stomach with memories of thousands of amazing kids…. priceless
Giving me something to fight for…..   priceless
Being inspired almost everyday….. priceless
Thank you for accompanying me on this priceless journey.  A few of my favorite photos to sign off:




















Thanks again for all the support, shout-outs, emails, visits and well wishes of those of you who silently followed along.  Thank you so much!!! Chao…. hasta luego.
KO

Return Visit to Shanghai Children's Home

Return Visit to Shanghai Children’s Home – May/June 2011



Following on the heels of Gladney’s March visit to the Shanghai Children’s Home by two child development specialists from the NY area,  we are pleased that in May and June we were able to visit once again in furtherance of the Waiting Child Partnership between the Shanghai Children’s Home and Gladney Center.   This most recent trip brought Gongzhan Wu (Gladney VP & Managing Director) and Lindsay Hatcher (Gladney social worker) to Shanghai for 2 days.  On this visit Gongzhan and Lindsay were able to gather additional information and photos on some of the children already matched with their adoptive families.  In addition, they were able to meet and interact with some of the children who will be assigned to Gladney and available for adoption in the upcoming months.  Please REGISTER now for next week’s webinar if you are interested in learning more about Gladney’s waiting child program and our most recent visit to China.

 
    
 

Mango Hunting


There is an activity here at the aldea in Costa Rica that is a novelty to me.  The daily (sometimes tri-daily) mango hunt.  It appears I have arrived to sunny Costa Rica just in time for mango season.  I love mangos… or at least I thought that I did.  That was until I became witness to the vest and fervor with which these kids of all ages hunt and subsequently eat mangos.  As Maura mentioned “you don’t have to worry about them going hungry, that is nice.”  Yes it is nice, they have ’round the clock snacks… if they are savvy enough to get them.
As far as I can tell, there are three methods to hunt a mango:
1. “Easter egg style”– this is where you just walk around and look for them in the grass. And there are tons. The risk in this method lies in the fact that the vast majority are malo (bad).  The are either obviously bad and smushed with bugs flying all around them.  Or, what I consider to be the scarier alternative, surprisingly bad. I have been witness to a few kids who have sunk there teeth into a “ground mango” and immediately spit and made a huge scene– bad mango. This is typically the method adopted by the littlest ones, or at least the less coordinated ones.  Because at a certain level you move on to advanced hunting.


Ground Mangos

Method 2: The chuck– basically you find whatever you can lying around. This may be another mango, a soccer ball, or a huge stick etc.  It seems to me they like using the big sticks… that way they can adopt kind of a sidearm sling thing.  And these kids can pick out a target like nothing I have ever seen before.  I will be walking through park area with on (personally not paying any attention to the trees) and the kid will stop me, point and tell me “look, there is a ripe mango” and after they describe exactly where it is to my non-mango-hunting-eyes, I see it. There it is, gleaming in the sun… amongst the other 30 that are around it, not quite yet ripe.  Kind of like this.


Can you spot the ripe mango?....

Once the target is elected it is not uncommon to see three or four kids throwing said gigantic branches into trees.  Shockingly, I have only seen one injury to date as one little boy had a stick drop from the sky and land on his head. I was nervous… but its been a week and he told me today that his head has totally healed (and sure enough, the knot that I had seen a week earlier was almost gone).


The side-sling chuck


The jump chuck

Even the little ones understand the thrill of the hunt.

Bringing the big boys a stick that she found.... to hunt her some mangos

Method 3:  The climb–This for me seems to me to be the most “skilled” method. As there are only about 3 or 4 teenage boys who I have ever seen attempt it.  Yep, you guessed it.  They scale the trees… and I mean high. This is also the one method that seems to be forbidden, a punishable act here in the aldea. But every now and then when they think no one is looking (or maybe no one is looking)  you can spot someone up in the tree.


Method 3: the climb

I am not joking when I say this is the absolute number on activity right now.  And it is what is on everyone’s mind… especially those that tend to perseverate on things.  Sometimes the promise of a mango following a job well done is the only way that we get through a hard therapy session.  But perhaps my most favorite mango story to date surrounds on of my most favorite kids here.  I say kid, but he is actually on of the older teenagers in the aldea.  He is 17-years-old… but is more like an adorable, loving, sweet, funny 5-year-old in a 17-year-old body.  We were working with him last week and he could not get mangos off his brain.  He just kept talking about them, honestly every 30 seconds he would bring up mangos again… no matter how hard we tried to change the subject.  His main obsession was the fact that he wanted to “climb the tree to get that mango”.  Like I said, he was talking about the one ripe mango that he some how spotted in the tree.  On mango that was literally 50 feet off the ground.  And he is not a tree climber.
But he talked about that mango. About how if we would just let him get up from the table he would climb that tree and get that mango…. and don’t worry he said, he would come right back.  There was not a shadow of a doubt in this child’s mind.  That mango was his… if we would just get out-of-the-way.  He was certain. That kind of certainty, to me, really is kind of beautiful.  From my (oh so mature) adult eyes, I knew it was an utter and complete impossibility that he could even get 5 feet of the ground in that tree.  For me it was all about the doubt.  For him, the sure success and capability.
Well, we finally finished.  And he marched right up to that tree.  Grabbed a hold with two hands, and dug his toe in.  Hopped up on the other foot to houst himself up. Attempt 1- no go. 2,3.  Then he turned to me, did this adorable little giggle thing that he does. Shook his head and said “nope” and of he went.  Never mentioning the mango again.

Dang I love these kids.

Mmmm.... mangos


Notice the fellow in the swing... he has a mango too


I think she likes mangos too
KO