14 more sleeps





Yes, 14 more nights at home in our beds before we are on our way to beds in China.  things now are moving at a breakneck pace.  Packages coming in daily, piles of things to pack.  Will we need two suitcases or one? Many many things to get nailed down.


In our heads we are already there.  Eating with chopsticks yummy noodles, dumplings.  Waking up to loud streets, not drinking the water.  Bikes everywhere. Yes we are in China.  The food, the noise and the smells all say we are in China.  All encoded in our memories.  On the other side of the world life is just as busy and crazy as we are here.

What are we looking forward to most, The children.  Seeing sweet little faces that we saw last year.  Smiles, tears and silly face.  Playing taking pictures. Time for extra hugs and squeezes. Rocking precious babies and playing soccer.  High fives and happy smiles. emailing from China, we met your child today.  

We will need several moving vans to get there with all the things we would like to bring. Hang on for the ride 14 more sleeps and we will be waking up in China.  Follow our Journey here and on the AWC blog.link below.  We will be posting different info on each blog so check both.



  asiawaitingchild.wordpress.com

     

Sun, Sea and my Fondest Memories



This weekend I had the honor to attend the Gladney family Association Picnic at the Larchmont yacht club in NY.  It was a perfect day.  The Sky was so Blue and it was cool but not cold.  I arrived early for a special project which i can share more about later.  Set up was almost complete when a an adorable little voice said, "I missed you, Miss Pat"   Then this little beauty ran straight into my arms.  It took my breath away because the first time I met her was in March 2011.   I was so over come at how she has blossomed.  She was barely walking the first time we met.  a few toddling steps.  Now running, jumping and making friends with all the children she meets.  She is so pretty with a beautiful smile.  How we met later changed my life.  Our Superkids trip focused on information for waiting parents was in 2011.  We had been going to China since 2007 to work with caregivers and rehab staff.  To help them learn and facilitate developmental milestones.  To get children in better shape earlier.  Walking and speaking sooner.  In 2011 we refocused because it was important to improve quality of life but the biggest improvement in this is adoption.

This little girl was special.  She was so sweet and just had a gentle spirit. We took some pics. We did a developmental screening.  That is me busily taking notes in the background of this picture.  We collected info all about her and quite a number of other children. We then came back and began to out reach for waiting children.  I spoke with a number of families about this little bug.  Until I spoke to Erin Martin.  Yes friends, that Erin. Our waiting child advocate who at that time was unknown to us.  She listened carefully even though she was on a hike with her family in an area of limited cell phone reception.  I think she knew and I knew, this was her child.  I got to meet this sweetie twice in China.  Once she was barely walking, the second time I went back with photos and a a few goodies, she was walking well.  When Erin went to meet her daughter for gotcha day, she was running and a few days home,  she was turning somersaults.  She was doing so well in development.

One of the best parts of this is Erin and I remained friends.  She began advocating for waiting children and here we are years later, going to China for her second trip and for me number???.  I have lost count.  This little bug is now the daughter of a my dear friend Erin.  A wonderful advocate and support for waiting children in China.

So Sunday was a very specail day for me.  Spending time with this family and my little sweetie.  We never know where a road will lead us but this journey has been so special.              

The Split Pants Dilema

This week on the AWC blog we posted about a little guy we call Andrew.  This guy was special we met him last year on our Superkids trip.  Erin and I had a good laugh about him.  He is a joyous little bug and made us all smile.  He recited a poem and sung a song and we just loved him.

This is one of our funny stories.  Part of the Split pants dilemma.  Many times when I am screening a child, I will be very focused as I look at the child's spine or move a joint and say,  "Girl or Boy?".  I have gotten some strange reactions to this.  Quizzical looks and asides from the orphanages, that I now take to mean what is up with this one. You see, it is common outside of orphanages in China to dress the children in Split pants.  SO when I am asking boy or girl, the evidence is right in front of me if I just look.  But I don't look.  Generally I don't look.  Since its so different from what we do, it never occurs to me.  

Enter Mr.  Andrew who is a happy playful boy.  he was clearly performing for us.  He turned a somersault, He was all over jumping, running and happily playing.  He loved Chelsea and seeing her blow bubbles.  He would chase them and giggle.  Well we have pictures, lots of pictures of this boy.  Until we got home and really worked on the pictures we did not know.  Yes, Andrew was wearing Split pants.  Imagine how that looks as you turn a somersault?  This has caused Erin a bunch of editing trouble. 

So this year, we will all be on guard and very attentive to Split pants.    
  

Such Amazing Joy - read along

I read blogs and posts every day from families who have already brought their amazing children home. We are just in love with these cute little bugs.  I wanted to show some sweeties and connect you all to some blogs. We know how amazingly these children do once home.  It fills our hearts more than we thought possible.

Here are a few to follow.  If you have adopted or are adopting, please share your bog in the comments so we can all follow along.

http://martinsinchina1.blogspot.com/

http://barryandkarenrapp.blogspot.com/

www.prayingforpink.blogspot.com

 www.runningtorunrun.blogspot.com 

www.ourlittlelimbbud.blogspot.com

www.dennis-ellen.blogspot.com

www.surpassinggreatness.com

www.sacredscribbles.blogspot.com

http://theroadtoyu.wordpress.com/

http://madeinchinacompletedingeorgia.com

Armstoainsley.WordPress.com

www.thelifeweimagine.blogspot.com

loveiswhatyoudo.com

I apologize that some of the links would not cooperate and all be red.  You all get the idea. These blogs will warm your hearts, inspire all of us and show us challenges.   We see how resilient children and parents are. Some of these wonderful blogs are from families in the middle of adoption.  We love you all and are awaiting your gottcha day too!


So read along and see what has happened and what is happening!

BTW, 24 more days till China!!!!




They are More than Special

We review profiles, list waiting children and when you finally meet them it all goes out the window.  There are beautiful pics and stories and finding out about who they are.  It is amazing and thinking about all the children we met last year and all those we will meet this year.

In general we don't think about the kids as a special need, like the limb difference child.  We think about them like the boy with the beautiful eyes, or the child that loved suckers.  In truth its their special need that makes them special.  It is what, along with their picture, that will draw a waiting family to them.  Parents will think, I can parent a child with cleft lip palate and look in Rainbow kids under that category.  Then they see a picture and fall in love.

Under that category you might see a cutie like this boy pictured.  He is such a cutie that you might want to kiss his cheeks. These beautiful children will become your sons and daughters.  They have our hearts until they have yours.  



As we continue to prepare for our trip, we prepare our hearts to meet and hold dear these very special children.  We are holding in our hearts until you hold them in your hearts.

If you would like more information, please contact patriciamarcuspt@gmail.com

  

Trip prep continues.

Erin Martin reminded me today that its about one month and we are leaving for China.  Oh Gosh, we cant wait to see the children but we have so much to do.  Its exciting and anxiety provoking all at once.  So here we go.


Photo project, where we attempt to help waiting children encode some positive memories, develop self image and strengthen their sense of who they are.  We think they are amazing but we want to reflect this back to them too.  So they know they are special.  We want them to see their beauty and how special they are.  We are getting special donations from all over.  Hair bands, caps photo supplies.  We also ask these wonderful children to draw their own self image.  We get beautiful results back.  We just love this part. Children with limb differences draw their own unique hand or those with a crooked smile or missing tooth draw this too.  


To us, each difference makes these children special.  They are unique and beautiful.  They are special in so many ways.  I love helping them explore their differences.   Because difference is what unites them with waiting parents.  So many waiting parents are looking for a specific special need.  In some way their special need has united so many families with so many children.


As individuals living in this time, we must truly embrace diversity and  reflect back each and every child's individuality, difference and unique self.  We want them to love and embrace who they are.  Differences and all!


Again Can't wait.  How many days was that again?




Family Friday

Today sweet waiting parents share about how the journey goes waiting for their daughter.  I met this wonderful family at CAFO last year.  The Superkids team met their daughter last summer in China. We cant wait to see them united as a forever family.  Thanks Ben and Julie for sharing about the Journey

The Journey... Looking Ahead and Behind



When you come from the flatlands of Indiana, you read about the mountains. You see pictures and videos, you hear stories, and you create this image in your mind of what you think they would be like. But when you actually go to the mountains, you see them in the distance and they start small. Then they grow, and grow, and grow, and they become bigger and more glorious than you ever imagined. This adoption journey is like that, and we're starting to get closer to that glorious sight of seeing our daughter in-person for the first time…the ultimate mountain view.


As someone who is still looking forward to Gotcha Day, it is easy to focus on what is growing larger in the future.  That is the day that looms large in every adoptive parent-to-be's mind.  We've heard the stories from others, looked at photos, and read blogs.  The anticipation is building towards that day.  We have created this image in our mind about how wonderful that moment will be.  We also have been given an awareness that it will be hard.  As we prepare for this incredible moment when much will come into view, we realize that everything is moving much more from what our eyes see and it is working its way towards our hearts.



The journey towards that day is what we find ourselves amazed by right now.  We have formally been in the process for a year now, and as we look back, we see the land we have traveled through and the beauty that is found there.  When we contemplate how our lives have already been transformed even before meeting our daughter, we are overwhelmed.  Our eyes have been opened to new ways of looking at the world, and they now discover a beauty that our eyes passed over before.  Things that held so much meaning to us in the past seem trivial in light of new passions, and the things we never noticed in the past now get us fired up.

On this incredible journey, we have crossed paths with people whose hearts beat in rhythm with our own.  Our adoption journey so far has taught us that this is much more than us adding a child to our family. We are joining a collective family of birth parents, caretakers, advocates, social workers, and other adoptive families praying for millions of children all over the world to be brought home.  We were given the privilege of joining that family, and we are being given the honor of bringing an already beloved child into our home and giving that love directly to her.  We also get to be a part of the family of so many other adoptive children through advocacy of the orphans who wait, walking alongside other adoptive families, and praying and supporting millions of orphans in the world who still need to be adopted.  We have sat with other families whose hearts are responding to the needs of these children, and we have joined the voices of advocacy to share with the world how precious these children are.  When we hosted the Orphan Love Run, our hearts were to advocate for those waiting for a home as much as it was to raise funds to help us bring our little one home. 



So as we approach the mountains, we are not alone.  We journey with people who have been to the mountains before, and we are alongside others on their journey.  We look forward to walking with families as they are just now hearing of the mountains, and they will begin their journey to see them for the first time too.  We look anxiously towards Gotcha Day, when we get to hold the precious girl our hearts have been dying to meet.  But we are also grateful for the journey we have been on so far, as our lives have been transformed in ways we never would have imagined through being a part of this incredible adoption family.